In Memory of Bryson….
Faithful Chronicles, My Chronicles — By Dr. Mommy on December 16, 2009 at 8:20 am
I’ve been contemplating writing this post for a couple of days and have finally decided to share. Part of the healing process is one of acceptance and the ability of sharing with others your thoughts, and feelings.
My dear friend, Shellie, lost her precious 2-year old to a tragic pool accident on Monday, December 14th. While she sobbed uncontrollably on the phone with me, I felt this empty feeling inside, one that is unexplainable. However, I quickly realized that I needed to be her ‘rock’ at the moment. The doctor in me took over and I proceeded to ask her questions. She gave me the details and all I kept thinking was ‘No, this can’t be happening’. I remained strong and called her mom, to share the ’sad news’.
When I did my part, I hung up and simple broke down. My children surrounded me and simply held me as I sobbed. Writing this and remembering the moment I was listening to Shellie sob, bring up the tears all over again. Crying…it’s another form of healing. Yes, we must be allowed to grieve and speak and write and this all leads to ultimate healing. As a mom, one can never possibly heal completely from a tragedy as such, but one thing we must do is remember, always remember and try to live our lives to the fullest as possible.
Loss is something that is incomprehensible and of course the questions and doubts arise. When I lost my mom, the closest person to me, I questioned everyone. I questioned my family, my dad, the doctors and ultimately my Lord. It was a very difficult time and I have since experienced the loss of my father as well as a still birth. It is never easy but having a support system helps. It is essential to have a support system which can consist of family, friends, community, church family, etc.
Many ask what they can do for Shellie…the most important thing to do is pray, send letters of support and give the family privacy in order to grieve and heal.
Loss is very difficult to begin with; add in the holidays and the loss of a child and it makes it worse. In light of this I will be dedicating my Blog Talk Radio show called Family Talk to Shellie and Baby Bryson. I will have a lifestyle coach as a guest and we will be discussing the loss process, the grieving and the healing process. I invite you to listen live on Wednesday, December 16, 2009 at 1pm EST. We will have the interactive chat room open as well. If you are unable to listen the recording will also be available.
Please continue to pray for Shellie, and her family. She has lost her baby here on earth, but heaven has gained another precious angel. We love you Shellie and love you Bryson. Shellie, you will never be alone, Bryson will always be with you. Moms and Dads, hug your children, love them and say a prayer for Bryson.
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I don’t know Shellie and I haven’t followed her on Twitter. But when I saw the news circulating on Monday, my heart shredded into a million pieces. As a mother who has buried a child, I grieve with her and everyone who knew Bryson. This is a horrible, horrible tragedy.
My prayers are with Shellie and her family.
I know this was heartbreaking for me and I only know Shellie through Twitter. Thank you for being the kind of friend that she could lean on at such a difficult time! Please let her know we are all praying for her and her family.
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Continuing to pray for the unbearable loss and grief this Mom is facing. My heart hurts for her, as she reached out for desperate prayers and I was so honored to be praying for Bryson, a child of God.
Continue to support her, pray for her and seek peace for her entire family. Shower her with love and compassion and thoughtful kindness. Open your hearts to Shellie with silent prayers.
I cannot even imagine what Shelle is going through. I don’t know her but as a mother, reading this just left me speechless. Please tell her that there is another mom out here that is thinking about her.
Beautiful post. I was in shock when I saw a RT of Shelli’s cry out for prayers on twitter. The negative aftermath that happened(s) is horrible. To lose a child, regardless of age or time of year, is horrific. I’ve been praying for their family since I saw the news. I realized I live in the same county as Shelli… so please share with them that a fellow mom in central FL has them all on my heart… and I care.
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I only knew of Shellie when news went around on Monday. Even not knowing her, as a mother, my heart sank. I am praying for her and the family. We will never understand the reason for this, but hopefully, some day, she will be able to smile again.
My heart goes out to your friend Shellie at this tragic time for her and her family – she’s going through the one thing that a Mom never hopes to have to live through.
I only hope that she continues to have all the support that she’s going to need, and that eventually she manages to comfort herself with all the delights that Bryson gave her in such a short life.
I hope also that the people who were so quick to doubt her tweets, and criticise her for being public in her grief will give some thoughts to their reactions. It’s a timely reminder to us all that a charitable heart and believing in people far outweighs the need to cynically doubt, if we are to progress as a society.
I know you will be a good rock for your friend – my prayers are with you all.
Tanya in the UK
Thank you so much for being Shellie’s rock, Daisy. I’ve had to break the news of a death, and I know what an insurmountably heart-wrenching task it is. Bless your heart. Please do let Shellie know how many are thinking of her.
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Thank you so much for being Shellie’s rock and our link to her during that horrible time. xoxo, Sarah
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I do not personally know this Mom~ but my heart goes out to her!
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I don’t know Shelly, but tears are rolling down as I read your post!
I am so very sorry for her loss and my prayers goes to the whole family!
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