Just a little stressed…

Having 5 children is no easy task!! And trying to raise them with high self-esteem is even harder!!

We try to instill values and morals in our children on a daily basis and pray that we have reared them in the right direction. But it can be very stressful!!

As a child I was taught never to give up!! Always work hard and try to be the best at all you set out to do. I thank my parents for making me the person that I am today. Mind you at the time, I didn’t like their rearing tactics, but I now know that they were doing the best that they could at the time. All they ever wanted was the best for me and didn’t ever want me to settle for less.

So, why is it that today’s generation is so lazy!! I don’t understand it!! If I try to push my children, I get blamed for being too hard on them. But, isn’t that what they need? Would they accuse our parents of being hard or just being very disciplined?

I instill hard work in all my children and never let them give up!! I guess, that is why I am stressed out today!

I never want my children to give up, I want them to be fighters…so how do we make them be fighters when today’s society is so lazy? Today’s society actually caters to laziness!! How frustrating!!

For example, one of my children, my oldest son, to be exact, while pitching during a baseball game; had a ball hit back at him resulting in a broken clavicle (collar bone). Boy, was that scary! Imagine, seeing your child go down at the pitching mound and getting back up with his arm hanging limp.

After x-rays, our diagnosis was correct, broken collar bone!! That however, didn’t stop him. He had to rest his arm for 6-8 weeks, but he would still try to throw a baseball with his other arm. When I asked him why he was doing that instead of resting, his response was, “Mom, I have to stay conditioned so when my collar bone heals, I can go back to playing baseball.” This came out of a 13 year-old child’s mouth! Wow! I knew I had done something right with his rearing or is that just something within him? Determination, perhaps?

The reason I ask is, because my daughter who also just recently injured her elbow and is a competitive cheerleader, doesn’t exhibit the same passion. Although, I rear my children the same, one has the passion to keep going while the other would rather quit!! I don’t understand, hence my frustration!! How can one with so much talent just decide to quit? Am I pushing to hard? I don’t think so, since I always tell them if they want it bad enough to show it and go for it. But, yet this child says she wants it, but her actions show otherwise.

So, as my family saga continues and I try to figure out the meaning of life, I will continue to teach and guide each of my children towards greatness. I will hope and pray that they will not falter and hope that they learn from all their experiences. Each one making them stronger and a better person in the long run.

I guess, I will continue to be stressed, but will not give up on my children and hope that they won’t either.

Dr. Mommy Chronicles, will continue next time..